In a New Year tradition, I continue, I don’t make resolutions. A word chooses me, and I focus on how it intersects my life. It becomes a “trigger” for reflection.
While I don’t want to relive 2020, I don’t want to forget the lessons I learned, including:
- Face coverings will be an ongoing medical/fashion piece and won’t die anytime soon, unlike the “dickey.”
- Make sure you always have an adequate supply of toilet tissue and paper towels in the house.
- Growing a beard doesn’t stop one from touching his face.
- Pandemics are exhausting even though you don’t go anywhere or do anything.
- I trust subject matter experts who have integrity, ethics, and principles like Dr. Anthony Fauci (Independent), Chris Krebs (Republican), Robert Mueller (Republican), and Brad Raffensperger (Republican).
- Taking a knee during the National Anthem no longer means disrespecting The National Anthem. All major sports embrace it. Even NFL commissioner Roger Goodell admits he got it wrong back in 2016 when Colin Kaepernick took a knee.
- Black Lives Matter is not an organization. It is a belief.
- Systemic racism is alive and well, a pervasive force, creating gaps in wealth and health, harming communities, and I’ve unconsciously contributed to it.
- I can explain systemic racism, but I can’t understand it for you.
- Diversity training is not effective. It may contribute to more racist behavior and “moral licensing.”
How could these bullet points be captured in “selfies”? Selfie – an image that includes oneself (often with another person or as part of a group) and is taken by oneself using a digital camera especially for posting on social networks. (Merriam Webster)
In a time of deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act. – George Orwell
I’m reminded of Daniel Kahneman’s breakthrough, best-selling 2013 Thinking, Fast and Slow. “Selfie” is a trigger to think slowly, deliberately, and mindfully. After all, taking, posting, and viewing selfies has become a daily habit for many. “Selfie” is going to be a daily habit of thinking slowly, deliberately, and mindfully.
Studies reveal “selfies” often evoke criticism and disrespect and are associated with non-authenticity and narcissism. They may be the ultimate sign of the narcissistic age in which we live. I intend to use “selfie” to do the opposite for me in 2021. I want “selfie” to trigger Ubuntu – an African word – “I am because we are.”
“Selfie” will be the trigger for me to look inward so that I can look outward.