As a growing number of people are walking away from work positions, climbing down from the “corporate ladder,” acknowledging burnout, and having a hard look in the mirror, there seems to be a greater need to talk through possibilities.
The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity – Dorothy Parker
Our identity is rooted in our patterns. The more we repeat a pattern, the more we strengthen our identity. How do you want to be identified? How do you want to be experienced by others? What patterns need to be challenged to create a better identity? Our patterns offer limited thinking. Coaching creates an opportunity to examine your current identity and see if transformation is necessary.
Those beliefs and assumptions impact our needs, including health, balance, purpose, growth, learning, connection, and significance. Our needs lead to goals. Goals require strategies and action steps that lead to desired outcomes.
Are you the best person for your work? What is your evidence? What are your overt benefit, the reason to believe, and unique difference? What other questions need to be asked to create transformation and transition? My approach to coaching looks at five key areas and determines if new patterns are necessary.
We begin by looking at the past. Who, what, where, and when can be significant. What were significant failures and mistakes? What did you learn? From your past, what defined you?
To know the past is to know the present. To know the present is to know yourself. – Ibram X. Kendi
This allows one to acknowledge the present. What habits are serving you well? What habits are not serving you well?
One discovers the light in the darkness. That is what darkness is for. – James Baldwin
This leads to working on one’s future. Where do you want to be significant? What would you like your legacy to be?
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived however, if faced with courage, need not be lived again. – Maya Angelou
From here, we look at relationships. Who are the mavens, connectors, and salespeople in your circles of influence? Who can you go to for support? Who are the subject-matter experts in your life? Where do you need to grow your diversity in your relationships? How will you deal with difficult people going forward?
It is precisely the minor differences in people who are otherwise alike that form the basis of feelings of hostility between them. – Sigmund Freud
Gratitude impacts our attitude. For what are you grateful? Where is your hope? How will you nurture hope in others?
Of all the arts, the art of living is probably the most important. – Deborah Levy